Hi my beautiful friends, I talk to a Lot of women with what I do and many of them say, I wish I could do what you do, or I wish I had more time to do ….. (whatever it is they love) and I ask them Why can’t you?
They normally reply I don’t know how, I don’t have the time, I don’t have the money, I’m too busy already. Does this sound familiar?
So I want to share something with you about these responses that you automatically answer with which might enlighten the situation a bit.
They are NOT True.
I used to use all these lines in some fashion for all types of reasons, mostly they were an excuse to get out of something I didn’t want to do or feel like doing, but soon, the more I used them, the more they became a Belief in my subconscious. Yours too!
I believed what I was saying was true.
How do we form habits? By repetition.
Are they all good habits? Well you can make up your own mind on that one. All you need to do when you respond with one of these answers is ask yourself – Is that true?
You may think it is but if someone turned up with a cheque for 500,000 quid would your response be But I’m Too Busy to Spend it?
A-ha! there you go, because your mind wants to keep you in your comfort zone,(where it’s safe) unless it thinks that something has no risks and then it says ah yeah go for it. (Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen as often as we’d like to think).
So, if you really had an aspiration to try something different or do something new but that little monkey- mind is telling you, but you’re too busy, you don’t have time for all that. Let’s try it a different way.
So let me ask you, What would you love to start doing that your head keeps giving you all these reasons you can’t?
Maybe it’s to take a new class, start a new routine, write a blog, change career, sack your boss, go traveling, take up a new hobby…
What Would You Really Love to Do? (take 5 mins and get jotting down some ideas)
5 Ways that will help you do more of what you love
1.Start now, it doesn’t have to be anything big but take one small step towards doing it. Like get a prospectus, check out a new gym, read up on how to start a blog, look on travel websites, join a facebook group based on what you want to do or learn and join in.
Beginning new things has a beautiful, exciting energy to it and what that tells your brain is that this must be something good, exciting good, not exciting bad.
2. Don’t sweat the HOW. This is where most people get road blocked because this is where the excuses try to kick in again. So instead of focusing on the how, focus on the WHY!
Why are you doing this? Because this is what makes you happy! Maybe you don’t even know if you can do it or if this is for you yet but if you don’t try you will never know and that brings up feelings of regret (brain doesn’t like bad feelings) so if you don’t know how, ask someone who does and give it a try.
3. Don’t make money a reason to do it or not do it. So many people give up and regret it before they even gave it a chance because their mind truly believes that money will stop them doing something they love.
Most people do what they love first, they don’t even care if they don’t get paid because their payoff is the feelings they get from doing what they love, right? But what can also happen is that many people inspire others, who can pay them to do what they love for a living and so if it your Why is about doing something that makes you feel great, then money will eventually follow. (ask Bill Gates, Richard Branson or J.K.Rowling)
4. Be consistent. Mastering a skill is what takes something from a hobby to a vocation or a career. If you aren’t sure, have a dabble and a play and see if this is right for you. No one is going to tell you, I’m sorry this is your 4th hobby, you can’t have any more!
When you find something you love, for me it’s coaching and connecting with people like you, you Want to get better, you will Want to master your skill and become better at it because it fills you with joy and pride and enthusiasm for life, it gives you a buzz! Be that in the evenings, before you go to work or on weekends. I don’t have time no longer means anything to you!
5. Have Fun! 😀 If you are not having fun, then you aren’t doing it right.
What I mean is, enjoy the process, enjoy what you are learning, laugh at your mistakes and share your joy! If that’s not happening then why are you doing it? Go change it if you are not enjoying certain parts of your life, you deserve to be happy!
Your mind is all about keeping you safe, but it also wants you to be happy (homeostasis or balance). So if you can fool your head into thinking this is just for fun, no big deal and move each baby step towards that dream or goal, they aren’t big enough steps to set off the alarm bells, plus you are enjoying yourself – well this can’t be dangerous!
So my beautiful dreamers dare to enjoy your life, dare to have fun, dare to master your skills and be the best you can be at whatever it is you choose to do with your beautiful life ❤
Let your dreams soar!
P.S.– Want some help with your self-confidence, boost your self-esteem and have the courage to make some changes and start following your dreams? Join me and our beautiful community of women go-getters in our latest Be Brave & Blissful Project, we start August 8th
Much love & bliss